Wedding days are filled with traditions and customs. But more modern weddings are also challenging the norms, as grooms become more involved, and couples are more independent of their parents. While the mother of the bride was always the chief partner in planning, today’s husbands-to-be often embrace the planning process and fill that role. Being open with Mom is the best way to manage expectations and protect feelings- keeping everyone involved and happy!
Once upon a time, the bride’s parents paid for the whole wedding, and the bride’s mother was the hostess of the wedding. As anyone planning a soiree, she called the shots and paid the bills. With more and more couples taking on the expense of the wedding themselves, or both families getting involved in paying for a portion, Moms are still involved – just in ways that the bride requests.
In the past, Mom trying to get in on the bridal shower planning was considered very bad protocol. Nowadays, most bridal parties welcome mom’s help, and often will co-host the party with her.
The mother-of-the-bride dress was often staid and conservative, but today’s brides are encouraging Mom to show off her fashion style and modern chic. However, moms of both the bride and groom should still coordinate with the bride, and each other, to make sure they aren’t upstaging the bride or clashing with one another.
Mom was always the last person – before the bridal party – escorted down the aisle. These days, Moms often accompany their husbands in walking their daughter down the aisle or take on the role entirely if she was a single mom.
Mom hasn’t given up her role of hostess; she has expanded it! To take advantage of everyone being in town, the mother of the bride will often host a non-formal party after the reception or the following day, allowing everyone to spend more time together and continue the celebration!
One thing will never change – watching a daughter get married is one of the most cherished memories of a mother’s life. Although the traditional role of mother-of-the-bride has changed; the timeless sentiments remain the same. Another thing that remains the same? The beauty and meaning that flowers add to any wedding ceremony – have you ever seen a wedding without a bouquet of flowers? From the bride’s walk down the aisle to the last favor being handed out, floral arrangements play a huge role in any wedding day – so grab your mom, and head for Port Charlotte Florist. We’ve helped hundreds of South Florida couples with their wedding flowers, and we can’t wait to help you.